I’m not sure how many people is a crowd, but we did have 15 children in our garden on Saturday afternoon. A sunny day always draws the masses, but after the 20th (I am not exaggerating) ring on the doorbell, I did begin to get a little hysterical.
Thankfully, some of the kids were there with their mums, which meant I was able to sit outside and enjoy a coffee with them and not feel that I had sole supervision responsibility. The bigger kids who were after bike mending spanners did not gain garden admittance. But they rang at least four times.

The trampoline can get a little crowded
We have the largest garden in the neighbourhood, a trampoline and a monkey swing and sociable kids, so it’s no surprise that they all want to come and play. Folk don’t arrange playdates or invite their children’s friends over for tea in the inner city – the kids seem to arrange the social diaries themselves. If I’m feeling up to it I’ll let most of them in, but I’m feeling a need to reapply my Vicarage and garden entry rules. Am I missing any?
- No entry without me seeing you come in.
- No entry if my kids are not in the mood.
- No entry if I haven’t met your mum/nan/carer (I didn’t apply this rigorously enough yesterday).
- You go home when I say.
- Shoes off indoors.
- Be kind to everyone.
- Speak in a way that pleases God.
We want to be hospitable to the local children – we have a hospitable God who invites us to eat at his table, and we want to reflect his character. It’s a challenge for me to be graciously inviting all the time though. And so on Sunday I lacked grace with a doorstep caller. I am praying that I will remember God’s welcome more and more so that I am able to share it in increasing measure.
I love that you are doing this. I think it’s such a brilliant thing to show hospitality. Will pray for you that these garden times lead to great conversations with the kids and their parents. Will pray also that you have the energy to do this. For His glory. xxx
I think it is very sensible to insist on shoes off indoors. I have heard of other vicarages having this rule.
Not allowing shoes inside protects the home and will enable you to be more hospitable in welcoming many people to your home and blessing them in that way.
I have an whole blog about removing shoes in homes: Shoes Off at the Door, Please You might like to take a look.
Welcome to the Vicarage, Matthew. I’m amazed at how much blog writing concerns the shoes off at the door issue!
There must be some value in a rule along the lines of ‘Help yourself to squash, but no food without asking.’